Home is one of the most sacred places we have here on Earth, it is the one place we should be able to feel comfort & safety, where we should be able to experience peace in a world where peace is hard to come by.
As women, we have been gifted the role of nurturers and pillars of rest. So we must learn how to cultivate and maintain peace within our households.
Peace is freedom from disturbance, tranquility, quiet, contentment, a sense of wholeness, and completeness.
It is easy to allow chaos & disorganization to grow within our four walls. It can often happen without us realizing it, especially when you have children and busy lives.
I wanted to share some tips for a more peaceful home to help you create the home environment you desire, where your family can be at ease throughout your everyday lives. A home you can all look forward to getting back to.
Here are 17 Tips for a More Peaceful Home!
17 Tips for a More Peaceful Home
1. Declutter
"A cluttered home makes for a cluttered mind." It's difficult to find peace in a cluttered and disorganized space. Clutter makes it almost impossible to focus and get anything accomplished. Taking time to declutter your home, removing what you don't need, and the things that take up too much room, is an excellent way to give your home a fresh start. It also sets you up to make healthier choices in other areas. Decluttering is also a perfect way to begin being more intentional with your space. As Marie Kondo the organization expert, says, "Get rid of everything that does not spark joy."
How to Declutter:
Consider minimizing and clearing out your cluttered spaces. Clean off your countertops, only leaving what you use on a regular basis or clearing it completely, taking out what you need, and then putting it away. I tend to take multiple trips to Goodwill when I declutter. Getting rid of things I’ve mentally and physically outgrown and things that no longer serve a purpose in my life.
Organize your home so that everything has its place. Utilize things like baskets, containers, drawers, etc. CleanTok and YouTube have many helpful organization ideas and systems you can begin putting in place to help keep your home tidy and uncluttered. Less is more!
Once you clear out your home, you’ll find that your mind is clearer, and you’re in a much better headspace to pour into your family.
Cleaning
Keeping a clean home has the same effect on your mental state as decluttering. Seeing your home tidy makes you and your family more comfortable, at ease, and able to relax. I can say for myself that my house being clean genuinely lifts my mood. The cleaner my home, the better I feel. And when I’m in a joyous place, I can do other things to bring peace to my home.
Try cleaning every day. Even if you only clean certain rooms on certain days of the week. That way messes don't get too out of hand, and you’re better able to keep up with them. Giving your children chores can also help you out some and keep the home tidy. Teaching children that everyone should contribute to the home is a good lesson for them to learn early.
2. Slow Down
We get so caught up in the hustle & bustle and the rat race of life that there is no wonder why so many of us are strangers to peace. We don’t stop moving. And even if we do, our minds are in a constant state of overdrive. What we need to do later. That appointment we have to make. What we’re having for dinner.
Take a pause. Sit down. Consider what your life would look like if you just slowed down a bit. What would that look like for your household? We miss out on so much when we always have to be somewhere doing all the things. Sometimes things can just wait.
Ask yourself:
Do I really need to go here?
Should I turn this on?
Do I really need my phone right now?
Do I really need to buy this?
If the answer is no, consider not doing it. We are an anxious and overstimulated generation programmed to go without stopping, and it is doing us more harm than good.
We are not machines. Sit. Think. Breathe. Just be.
3. Take Care of Yourself
Peace in your home begins and ends with you as you set the tone for the environment of your household. If you are not taking care of yourself, it will be very difficult for you to show up and give your family the home life they deserve. Our jobs as women require a lot from us, and for us to properly function in our roles, our bodies need to be made a priority. Otherwise, our homes will suffer.
Wellness begins at home.
This means that you should be taking your vitamins/supplements, staying hydrated, getting some sort of movement in daily, and eating a nutrient-dense diet as often as you can.
You may be surprised how much your energy levels and mood are controlled by these areas. Giving your body what it needs to function at its best is self-care.
Oftentimes, your lack of energy and feelings of blues and depression are caused by vitamin deficiencies, dehydration & a lack of exercise.
Taking care of yourself puts you in the headspace you need to be in to give your family the proper care and peace they need to function healthily.
Your Mental State Matters
Something to always keep in mind is that in order for you to bring peace to your home, you must first be at peace with yourself.
Sometimes we as mothers can suffer from overstimulation, which can be mistaken for irritability. Recognize when you are overstimulated and find ways to unwind. You may need to unplug from your devices, take some time for yourself and decompress. These are all ways to not only be at peace within yourself, but also helps you to keep the peace at home.
4. Create a Schedule
Putting a schedule in place gives your family an expectation of how your days will go, provides a certain level of security, and removes the guessing out of your day. Having a schedule also helps with anxiety and feelings of disorganization, which can get in the way of your peace.
Everyone in the home knows what to expect, where to go, and what's required of them, which is a great way to avoid chaos. Think about how you would like your ideal day to go from start to finish and create a realistic schedule around it. You just might be able to have your ideal day multiple days a week.
5. Implement Quiet Time
There is clarity in silence. Quiet time isn't just for children; the adults of the home can also benefit. We live in a world that is so loud that we often forget about the quiet. Make space for quiet time in your day. Teach your children that it is okay to take some time just to sit. Use it as a time to take inventory of your thoughts, read, draw, paint, or just look out of a window and reset. In time everyone will feel more at ease. Quiet time can become something the entire family looks forward to.
I like to get the kids together, and we will lay on the floor or outside in the grass with our eyes closed for a while in silence. Teaching them to relax is something I hope they all carry with them throughout their lives.
6. Learn Contentment
We are constantly surrounded by options. It can be difficult to feel content, grateful & satisfied with our life. That lack of contentment will rob you of your peace. Sure, you may want a bigger house, and one day you might get one.
But why should that stop you from experiencing contentment now? We tend to focus so much on what we don’t have that we often lose sight of what we do. You have been given plenty, and you can lose what you have in the blink of an eye. We have all been blessed within our lives, yes, we could always have more, but we could also have a lot less. Learn to love and appreciate the life you live. Be content. Accept the imperfections & flaws that come with life, and be at peace when things don’t go your way. And if you do find yourself blessed with more, be content with that too. Otherwise, nothing will be enough, and you will never know peace.
7. Practice Patience
As a mama of 4 children, patience and I were strangers for a very long time. And sometimes, I still fall short. But I realize my lack of patience kept me from ever experiencing peace. When you think about it, many things we tend to lose our patience with aren't usually that serious.
So many of our problems could be avoided if we had more patience. Give your family and your life the same amount of patience and grace you want them to give you. We could all use some patience because we all need work. So remember that when dealing with your children, your husbands, parents, in-laws, or the customer service rep. A little patience will take you places and bring you peace.
8. Choose Your Battles
In times of disagreement, it's important to keep yourself calm and think before you speak to avoid escalating any situation.
“Pleasant words are like a honeycomb, sweet to the being, and healing the bones.”
Proverbs 16:24
“She opened her mouth with wisdom, and in her tongue is the law of kindness.”
Proverbs 31:26
Communicate with patience, and state your points of view respectfully and calmly. It is possible to keep the peace, get your point across and discuss a disagreement without things escalating.
Just because something goes differently than you may want, or something happens that you don't like, doesn't mean that it's worth disturbing the peace over.
This does not mean that things shouldn't be addressed, but the focus should be on how you handle them.
You want to avoid being contentious and problematic in your home. Because you set the tone, if you are contentious and negative at every inconvenience or disagreement, those in your home will follow suit. You set the standard.
9. Get Control of Your Home
I know that some mothers secretly feel as though they can’t have peace in their own homes because of their children's behavior. It is important to remember that you are an adult. Children need you to set the standard and the structure of your home. There is a time to play and a time to wind down.
If you are overwhelmed with the current state of your home, consider setting boundaries and house rules for your children.
Work play time and quiet time into your house schedule. As I mentioned earlier if children have a schedule and know what to expect, it is easier to get them into a rhythm. Everyone should be able to have peace n the home, including you.
10. Let Some Light In
Open up your windows and let the sunshine in! Sunlight is a powerful mood enhancer and boosts the morale of the home. Sunlight produces Vitamin D and the happy hormone serotonin, which helps to fight depression. And you can get Vitamin D inside your home just by opening your curtains! Sunlight also helps balance your body's circadian rhythm, promoting healthy sleep, feeling well rested in the morning, and better prepared for your day.
This also encourages energy, so the more sun, the better! Opening up all the curtains and blinds is a must every morning in our home. And it makes a big difference to the way I feel when I’m getting my day started. And the better I feel, the more at peace I am.
11. Open Your Windows
Open up your windows and allow the fresh air in! It is good for your mind, body, and the atmosphere of your home. Your body needs fresh air to function correctly. Fresh air circulating helps to remove pollutants and toxins from the air in your home, giving you a mental boost and helping you think clearer as better air quality affects your cognition and you breathe better. Poor air quality also leads to low productivity. Have you ever opened your windows and felt the urge to do more around the house?
Fresh air also improves the smell of your home, leaving everyone feeling refreshed. One of the first things I’ve started doing in the morning is opening all the windows in our home and allowing the breeze in.
12. Quality Time
I cannot stress how important quality time is. Spend time with your family, talk to them. What better way to encourage peace than to relax and bond together. Whether it's a movie night, game night, or doing away with screens and just spending time talking about your day, reading together, etc. There are so many ways to spend quality time.
Quality time improves mental health, lowers the risk of behavioral problems in your littles, and teaches conflict resolution in children. All of these things promote peace in your home while bringing the family together. Try and get in some sort of quality time every day.
13. Aromatherapy & Candles
Lighting a candle, or putting on an essential oil diffuser, and grabbing a blanket and a book is so relaxing. The calm and relaxing vibes they bring give the home a peaceful feel and a relaxing aesthetic. I like to lower the lights before lighting my 3-wick candle to set the mood for relaxing and quiet time. The girls who get it get it. Consider decorating with unscented candles for the ambiance. This is also good if you’re sensitive to smells.
14. Music
Whether it's jazz, classical, ocean, or rain sounds from YouTube or the Calm app. Music can bring a peaceful atmosphere to your home, and you can play it throughout the day or while working or cooking. Whichever way you prefer, it's known to set a calming mood throughout the entire home. Consider making playlists for your home based on where you’ll be using them and what you’ll be using them for. I love a good kitchen playlist!
15. Bring Nature Into Your Home
Throughout the centuries, we as humans continue to lose our connection to nature. But the fact remains that we are natural beings, and nature continues to have an amazing effect on our bodies. Try bringing some nature into your home. Nature is known to improve our overall well-being. You can bring in green plants and fresh flowers, decorate with natural wood, use fresh eucalyptus in the shower, use natural fibers in your home, or all of the above. Using nature to decorate the home boosts the immune system & blood pressure, reduces muscle tension, improves mood, and increases energy levels. Decorating with certain green plants adds a nice pop of color to your space and purifies the air. All of which contribute to a more peaceful environment.
16. Decorate with Intention
Use colors that bring you joy. Try using rugs & throw pillows that complement and soften your space. Natural colors and minimal patterns can be soothing. Try not to overpower your space with too many patterns and colors. Too much can be overstimulating and can bring about feelings of anxiety and stress. Adding art to your walls can also bring about feelings of peace. Try to decorate your home in a way that makes you feel good.
17. Praying & Meditating on the Word
The Word tells us on many occasions that peace comes from our Father. We will have troubles in the world, but through Him, we find peace. I firmly believe that the closer you get to The Most High, the closer you get to peace.
So praying and meditating are very important. Pray for your home, your mental well-being, and the mental well-being of those around you.
Pray that peace be given to your dwelling & pray for the strength and means to maintain that peace.
Find the time to meditate on the Word every day. Spend that time with Him and watch as your inner peace takes root and flourish over time, and you’ll have no problem applying some of the other things I’ve listed here. For there is no peace without the peacemaker.
There was a time not very long ago when I was overwhelmed and stressed, and I had no idea what I was doing. I had not known peace. We had no structure, and things had gotten out of hand. Some of these practices I am still learning and implementing can take some time. Set goals for yourself. If you want to bring more peace to your home, set some goals for the things listed above that spoke to you that you would like to implement and start slowly making changes. And remember that peace must start within you to extend outward to your family and home.
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A Diamond Yisrael says
This is a lovely guide to create and maintain a peaceful home!
Bayanah says
I am in love with ALL of these tips!! As a very young wife/mother it gets overwhelming at times. But these tips we’re gonna keep in mind. Thank you !!! Bless your house & blog!! 🙌🏽
Abarriyah Elyscia Carter says
this is such a beautiful post. APTTMH the spirit compelled you to do this. May the Most High continue to use you as a vessel! Barakatha sis. Thawadah!!